Conflict is a natural part of life and bound to occur, whether in the home, school, community, church, or workplace. However, the way we manage conflict has the potential to support personal, community, and institutional transformation. Leaders in all walks of life often have a responsibility to help others work through their conflicts, and yet many, if not most, leaders have not been introduced to the skills necessary to support effective conflict resolution nor do they have a deep understanding of their own relationship to conflict. In partnership with the Conflict Transformation Ministries of the NC Conference of the United Methodist Church, the Duke Center for Reconciliation will host a yearlong series of conversations about conflict transformation. The goal of this series is to help the Duke Divinity School community understand the skills necessary to deal effectively with interpersonal, congregational, and other forms of group conflict. In addition to giving a short presentation and engaging participants’ questions, speakers will provide practical resources and lists of materials to help equip us in our journey to be more self-aware and more confident as we work in and on conflict.
The Hispanic House of Studies, the Methodist House of Studies, and the Thriving Rural Communities Initiative are co-sponsoring the series.
Your Brain on Conflict, Aug. 30, 2018 (12:20-1:20 p.m., 0013W): Dr. Len White, Associate Professor of Neurology, Associate Director for Integrative Human Biological Sciences, and Co-Director of Undergraduate Studies in Neuroscience at Duke University
Our brain influences how we interact with our environment, and our environment influences how our brain works. How do you respond to conflict, and why do you respond that way? We can put to use our knowledge of brain function to shape how we think about and manage conflict. Join Dr. Len White, a Duke neuroscientist, for a conversation about our amazing brains and how we can develop a better understanding of how our brains react unconsciously and automatically to stress and conflict and how to regulate our responses to conflict.
Understanding Implicit Bias, Sept. 26, 2018 (12:20-1:20 p.m., 0013W): Rev. Chris Brady, Pastor, Wilson Temple United Methodist Church, Raleigh N.C.
Implicit bias refers to the attitudes or stereotypes that affect our understanding, actions, and decisions in an unconscious manner. These biases, which include both favorable and unfavorable assessments, are activated involuntarily and without an individual’s awareness or intentional control. Residing deep in the subconscious, these biases are different from explicit biases that individuals may choose to conceal for the purposes of social and/or political correctness. The implicit associations we harbor in our subconscious cause us to have feelings and attitudes about other people based on characteristics such as race, ethnicity, age, and appearance. We all have these biases and more often than not, these biases do not necessarily align with our declared beliefs or even reflect stances we would explicitly endorse. Join the Rev. Chris Brady for a conversation about implicit bias, how to begin to explore what yours are, and how to gradually unlearn our unhelpful implicit associations.
White Supremacy Culture, Oct. 24, 2018 (12:20-1:20 p.m., 0013W): Dr. Tema Okun, Equity Fellows Program at Duke University
White supremacy culture is reproduced by all the institutions of our society. In particular the media, the education system, western science, and the Christian church have played central roles in reproducing the idea of white supremacy (i.e. that white is "normal," "better," "smarter," "holy" in contrast to black and other people and communities of color. What implications does this cultural reality have for our life together? What can each of us do to develop a deeper understanding of how white supremacy culture runs counter to the gospel call to reconciliation and how we can work towards dismantling racism?
Living in to Matthew 18: 15-20, Jan. 31, 2019 (12:20-1:20 p.m., 0013W): Rev. Molly L. Shivers, Director of Conflict Transformation Ministries, NC Conference of the United Methodist Church, Chapel Hill, N.C.
When groups of human beings gather, there inevitably will be conflict when individuals express clashing wishes, needs, and desires. Nonetheless, conflict in and of itself is natural, normal and necessary for growth. Conflict can be damaging when it is not addressed in a faithful manner. In Matthew 18: 15-20, Jesus gives step-by-step instructions for navigating conflict in Christian community. In this session, participants will walk through Jesus’ guidelines for engaging conflict in Christian community and explore practical applications of Matthew 18: 15-20.
Active Listening, Feb. 13, 2019 (12:20-1:20 p.m., 0013W): Rev. Chris Brady, Pastor, Wilson Temple United Methodist Church, Raleigh N.C.
Active listening is a communication technique used in counseling, training, and conflict resolution. It requires that the listener fully concentrate, understand, respond, and then remember what is being said. Listening actively is an incredibly powerful conflict resolution tool as most people will not listen or contribute to productive problem solving until they feel understood. It’s also harder than most people think! Join Rev. Chris Brady for an introduction to active listening and learn how it can improve your communication and conflict resolution skills.